Wednesday, October 9, 2019

birthday reflections, 39 things I have learned.

source, no this was not my cake..Yes I wish it was.

Its my 39th birthday today, I wanted to post something reflecting in that truth. So I made a list of 39 things I have learned in the 39 years I have been alive, words of wisdom/advice life lessons. No particular order, just brainstorming as I'm sitting here.

1. Never judge another, you have no idea what someone else is facing. Everyone's step through life is different, respect it. What is on the surface may not be what they are battling on the inside.
2. Go against the grain, DARE to be different. For the greater good of man kind, be that ONE that stands up/speaks up for the lesser. Be the one that separates yourself from the norm.
3. Set goals and stick to them, no matter how frightening it is. No matter how many people say you can't, do it. Don't look back and WISH you would have done that one thing.
4. Embrace change. Move forward, don't look back. Don't harbor regrets, you are not a tree. MOVE. Change directions in your life if you don't like it.
5. Find a purpose in life, what drives you? To be better, to want more for yourself or those you love. Find something that fulfills you to the core, your spirit. Lift yourself up.
6. Be silly, goofy and totally dorky. Because in those moments I feel like a child again and that feeling is simply amazing. Stay young at heart.
7. Just breathe. Simply breathe. This is where i am at at 39, reminders to simply just be. Affirmations to keep going, because when this age comes things start to almost feel redundant and life can take some heavy hits, sometimes one after the other.
8. Find a hobby and amerce yourself in it, for me its gardening. I love my hands in dirt, planting seeds, watering and harvesting the fruits of my labor. The motions of self discipline and care. Its rewarding and fulfilling
9. Stay active and find adventures, even if that means a bike ride around the block. Drink in the sun, spend time outdoors connecting with nature and admiring life's simplistic beauties.
10. Spend time with those you love, invite them into your life regularly. Build strong relationships and bonds.
11. Eat well, healthy and watch the changes in your body. Be aware of what is in your food and what you feeding your family. Read those labels and educate yourself.
12. Be a good parent, teach them how life works, steer them in the right light. Speak positive truths over them.
13. Be a kind human, do those things that society has forgotten. Don't expect anything back in return, just do it because its right. Pass that moral down. Teach the young this.
14. Have faith, trust God. Over and over he saved me from my darkest moments. Learn to trust in his will, no matter how scary its looking.
15. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes the burden is just to heavy, there are people out there that would gladly help if you just ask. This applies to anything in life.
16. Forgive. Yea, I said it. Forgive your biggest adversaries, the sins against you that cut the deepest. Forgive and move on so that you can heal proper. Its the only way to really move on.
17. You are stronger then you think. You posses a power in you that goes deep, a primal instinct to survive. Tap into that in your darkest moments.
18. Smile, a simple act takes less muscles then frowning and it makes you feel good. I smile at strangers all the time, you never know....Maybe that's the only smile they seen all day..week..
19. Surround yourself with positive people, learn what toxic looks like and stay far away. Wow did it take me awhile to learn this one, I no longer want to be part of groups that talk about other people. I want to be apart of a group that lifts each other up and does not label. Labeling is lame.
20. Love. Heal and try and love again. Love will come and go, just trust the flow.
21. Do something for you, something that makes you feel good on the inside.
22. Read a good book, find a quite place and let your mind take you to another place.
23. Celebrate small victories, these small victories are building blocks to the future.
24. Don't be afraid to show emotion, it does not mean you are weak. It shows you are human and feel. Some people lack this ability.
25. Let go of your frustration before you melt down, find a way to un-wind and defuse in a healthy manner.
26. Rest is everything. At the end of the day, lay your burdens down. Let go of all the things that try to run through your head and rest.
27. If you fail, try again and again. If you truly want something, go after it.
28. Be frugal, learn how to save money in life. It will makes things so much easier.
29. Be humble. Thankful for all good things, even if small blessings.
30. Find Peace. Find a place that clears your mind, allows for silence. Detach yourself from all things that do not bring peace, even if this means letting go of something/someone you love. Learn what brings you peace and indulge in it.
31. Self awareness, know what has shaped you to the person you are today. Know what steps it took to get there.
32. Break bad habits. Ones that are not particularly good for you.
33. Consume knowledge, you will never stop learning in life. So much of it is at our disposal, tap into it and learn something new.
34. Learn to love the little things. This is why I named my blog "Little things every day" because its these little things in life that lift me up and bring gratefulness. Appreciation to be alive. A breeze against my cheek, a beautiful orange leaf flowing to the ground, a butterfly landing on a leaf, my sons laughter from another room etc. little things.
35. Think before you speak, Lord help me I'm still learning this one. I am pretty blunt and sometimes I think I speak before really tasting the words on my lips.
36. You can't make everyone happy. No matter how hard you try some people will find fault in you, know that its ok. Its not you, truly its them.
37. Understand nothing lasts forever, all good things must come to a end.
38. Be fiercely independent, learn how to survive on your own. Learn to love yourself first. Learn to keep yourself good company and never depend on anyone else.
39. Be happy. Your alive, you made it another year. Gods speed.

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